How do I go about opening this site up to be read by more than its core audience? A large number who stop by are either cross-dressers or onanists. The first group I welcome, because we have something to share. The second group can carry on on their one-handed way, so long as I don't have to clean up the mess (eugh!) - but more of that later. However in the real world I socialise with people of nearly every sex, sexuality, race - and thankfully, relatively few w**kers. It's a pity that this spectrum of humanity doesn't seem to be reflected even slightly in my visitor list.
The reason I'm writing this is to express the simple fact that though web sites often seem single-issue, the people behind them are usually normal humans with a wide range of interests. I believe that if you have any sort of involvement with alternative sexualities (you're gay, lesbian, a fetishist, a confused partner, whatever), there is so much to learn from others regardless of whether they happen to fit the same little descriptive box as you. So, I like meeting new folk. This web site is here for exactly that reason. I'm fishing for views from those other 'boxes', and trying to break down a few walls on the way. I would like to be able to read and perhaps publish a range of opinions of surfers who pass by, as well as broadening my own horizons.
In creating this site I've found that it's fairly easy and very rewarding to try to express things that aren't so easy to show in real life. Despite the newspapers conjuring up stories of Cyber-baddies who'll read your mail and then suck your brains out (remember my words next time you see Britney Spears), the web is actually one of the best places to express yourself in a safe and largely anonymous way. Having put those words down, it's great to read an email saying that what you've written really means something to someone, or even just made them laugh.
Unfortunately, even though I dress 'femme' I'm probably just as much a part of the massively male dominated rush onto the web as the one-handed surfers who hurry straight to my pictures page and will never read this. Firstly, wanting to show you lot my pictures is a very male way of expressing how relieved I feel that I can dress up without being ashamed of myself. Unless you're a cross-dresser you're very unlikely to appreciate how that feels, so I imagine the picture parade comes across as a huge self indulgance when it's meant to show that you are allowed to be a little different.
Secondly, the background noise of pornography on the 'net means that any even vaguely sexual picture is seen as part of the big sales pitch. Despite the fact that I'm not for sale, I suspect that many potential readers will see this site as yet another offering of cheap titilation. The arrival of affiliate adverts doesn't help to dispel that, but given the costs of hosting this website the option was a simple one to take. It remains a fact that this isn't a business, and I spend more in running it than I ever receive.
And finally, the majority of the Internet seems to be aimed only at men, so those kind souls who didn't come here expecting to pay still make the incorrect assumption that I'm looking for love in the arms of a strong male. I gather quite a few of the lesbian homepages get offers along exactly the same lines as I do - and like them, I'm strangely not interested. Having a partner (and a female one at that) means that I'm much more interested in chatting and sharing experiences than misguided offers to look after me.
But I can't seem to find the words or the right welcome sign to get a wider range of people either reading this site or even better, contributing towards it. I know these pages talk a lot about cross-dressing - those are my feelings that I want to let out - but I'm interested in anyone who has something to say about sex and sexuality. There is a real difference (I hope) between sites like mine that try to open a discussion about very personal issues, and those that are there for baser reasons usually involving bodily fluids. If I can just find the words to invite you in, I'd love you to join my Diversity.
Claudia